Old times remembered

Miss all the eagan fun. Miss u gals and krishna who is not in this pic

Why are relationships so complicated?

Have you ever got an answer to this question- ' Why are relationships so complicated?

Why is there so much misunderstandings and mistrust between people. In my recent times I have seen relationships fall out. Siblings who were close for the last 50 years had a fallout. And everything they were for each other all these years has been undone on one situations. Are relationships this fragile? Are they as delicate as a flower petal that they blow away with one blow, with one miss-understanding!

In my short life I have also seen relationships build. Where there was no love lost between brothers, there was immanence love created in time. Life lessons have thought these brothers how to put aside their egos and help and be there for each other. I have seen husband and wife truly fall in love after 15 some years of marriage and many mistakes.

What worked in this case? Is it patience? Because i don't think anyone of these people were trying to be patient! Was it luck? Is there such a thing in life? Is it god's grace? Maybe.

One thing I saw is that... no matter what these brothers didn't leave in the relationship. I don't mean leave as physically leaving the building, I mean leaving the relationship because things got rough. I am not talking about abusive relationships here (either emotional or physical) I am talking about real relationships!

Another reason is Expectations! People change and with change brings new expectations. And with new expectations there is disappointments. And then there is unrealistic expectations.

Another reason is people live in dream world. They don't see people for who they really are. This is one of the mistakes I made. I put people in pedestal and expect nothing less but greatness. Even though they show their true self one in a while. I ignore it and make excuses for them. I think they will change, and keep going with my dream world. Until reality sets in, and the last straw is drawn and I see them for who they really are, less than perfect, Human! It is shocking for me to come to this realization. At the end it feels like I am the idiot for not seeing it coming.

So what can we do to make relationships work. Now that's a million dollar question. If know the answer I would be rich. I would save all broken marriages, and no parents will end up in old age homes because their kids will take care of them and there would be world peace.

Heaven

Where is Heaven?

Heaven is where mom is! I am in my parent's living room. My mom is cooking my favorite food. And the smell, oh my. Fried rice with raitha, it's filled with amazing spices and vegetables but mostly my mother's love, the best ingredient.

I can never get too old for this. Love you amma

If I had all the money in the world...

Ok maybe not all the money but lets say million dollars:

I would firstly secure my parents future.
I would buy my self a beautify home
Have 2 kids
Travel
Invest

Dear Dad

Here are the 101 reasons why you are the best...

1. I am your daughter and I know it
2. You are kind
3. You are wonderful
4. You are an inspiration
5. I admire you
6. You are a great son
7. You have dreams
8. You believe in the best of me
9. You are individualistic
10. You are sensitive
11. You want whats best for me
12. You compromise
13. You are Unique
14. You are a good husband
15. You believe in God
16. You are heroic
17. You live in US for us
18. You are unique
19. You are caring
20. You work
21. You are my hero
22. You are my mother's hero
23. You shine like a star
23. I love you
24. You are gentle
25. You are a gentlemen
26. You are a good friend
27. You are a great brother
28. You are there for me
29. You don't drink
30. You don't smoke
31. You don't party
32. You don't do drugs
33. You listen to me (well sometimes)
34. Its fun to talk to you
35. You give me foot massages, even if you are tired
36. You have a good sense of fashion
37. You have a good sense of humor
38. You are cool.
39. I love the way you say 'What's up Man'
40. You are handsome
41. You shave
42. You wear cool cloths
43. You yell at me when I am wrong
44. You yell at me when I am selfish
45. You are a good influence.
46. You are respectable
47. You are respected
48. Cause mommy says so
49. Because I am taking time to write this
50. I already have 50 down for you
51. You have Indian Culture
52. You love India and America and Canada
53. You sing sweet
54. I love when you sing in the car
55. You are a good father in law
56. You are a good dancer (love to see you dance with shashank)
57. You are a bad actor
58. You did 2 movies (my movie star)
59. You always spend money on me
60. You trust me
61. You rock
62. You love farming
63. You are down to earth
64. Mom is head over heals for you
65. You love me
66. You love mom
67. You love Vamsi
68. You love Shashank
69. You love everyone I love
70. You want to be there for us
71. You are a perfectionist
72. You show your tears
73. You have a wonderful heart
74. You made a good person out of me
75. You have a great smile
76. You have a handsome laugh
77. You wear glasses
78. You say 'no' sometimes
79. You are almost right about everything and everyone
80. You are not perfect
81. You have flaws
82. You are an Idle
83. I admire you
84. You have stories to tell. (Love your bed time stories)
85. You listen to good music
86. You listen to mom
87. You put up with mine and vamsi's crap
88. You put up with mom's crap (don't tell her I said this)
89. You love and respect my mother (a best thing a father can do)
90. You carried the burdens for us
91. You change for us in a good way
92. You are loved by people around you
93. We have a lot in common
94. Vamsi is your son
95. You have a good, pleasant personality
96. I think you are
97. For Scale 1 to 10, 1 being worst and 10 being the best, I give you 8
98. No one can have 9 or 10, that's not a perfect dad's definition. Dad's got to have flaws
99. You are simply the best
100. See I already have 100 reasons, need I say more
101. Cause I said so...

Love you Daddy, Your little girl ( Amma Dhayi)