Relationships

From the moment we are born into this world we are lied to. The first lie comes from our mother. She promises to never hurt you and never let harm come near you. It is a silly promise because she will not be able to control life that is about to happen to this innocent child. This innocent child will grow up and not be so innocent anymore. He/She will break some hearts and make some promises he/she won't be able to keep and hence the cycle continue. We are truly alone, we are born alone and we die alone...

Human relations are so volatile. If it a java code, then it is not very thread safe. For a while it seems like the perfect code, bug free, and then you get stuck in a dead lock. Can't get out, no way out. The process needs to be killed Unless you end the relationship itself.

But is that the answer. When it gets tough do we end it.? Some relationships i have had shocked me. They shocked me because they began with a lie, a promise that eventually got broken. It not only ended the relationship, but it changed me forever. I was not the same person anymore. How could one event change me so much. I loved this person and thought she could do no harm but she did.

So I am stuck with one question. What do I do? couple of solutions
1. Ignore, pretend nothing happened - i don't think i could do that
2. Forgive and Forget - I can forgive, it is in me, but can i forget, it will never be the same
3. Leave the relationship - so easy choice. sounds right.

Here is another way to think about it.

1. Yes they have been there for me +20
2. Yes they have hurt me -10 (good seems to out weight the bad) BUT
3. Knowing what i know would i have felt the same way i felt before getting in too deep - NO, it is not worth it.

So when the bad weights the good out, why bother. End it. Finish it. Is it that simple?